We just have to apologize for different reasons. Extroverts have to apologize for something that flies out of their ever-going mouths. Introverts have to apologize for saying nothing, when something is needed.
Oh, I don't know. I'm introverted and feel like I *blurt* now and then. Maybe it's trying to fit into an extroverted world that makes me say things I shouldn't.
No, I think sometimes introverts hold it in for so long until finally we can't stand it anymore and we just say what we think. Sometimes with all of the irritation of past situations where nothing was said.
I'll weigh in from the psychology side and say that introversion/extroversion is one variable, but assertiveness/wussiness (not a scientific term, ha ha) is another variable. Not sure about the correlation...that's where the study would come into play, huh?
as i lay awake thinking over this puzzle, i came to the realization that perhaps a false dichotomy has been set up here - in other words, introversion/extroversion is made up of more than just being assertive or not - so no, Erin, you're not screwed - you just put yourself into a tight little matrix that pretty much would screw anyone - however, i would think that an assertive extrovert (in this little matrix) would be considered pretty potent!!
Besides, we introverts often feel like we have to apologize, too. Maybe not so much for for what we say (although that, too), but for not wanting to attend group events or for wanting to leave early, stuff like that.
I know, I know. I've turned something clever and witty into a serious discussion. Tsk, tsk.
Not screwed as much as you might think, Erin. She said assertive, not aggressive. An aggressive extrovert would be much worse. And what Laurie said about clever and witty.
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Yes. I feel like I put my foot in my mouth daily.
We just have to apologize for different reasons. Extroverts have to apologize for something that flies out of their ever-going mouths. Introverts have to apologize for saying nothing, when something is needed.
I was just gonna answer "yup." (I'm an extrovert.) But then I read Naomi's comment...ditto to what she said.
Oh, I don't know. I'm introverted and feel like I *blurt* now and then. Maybe it's trying to fit into an extroverted world that makes me say things I shouldn't.
No, I think sometimes introverts hold it in for so long until finally we can't stand it anymore and we just say what we think. Sometimes with all of the irritation of past situations where nothing was said.
I'll weigh in from the psychology side and say that introversion/extroversion is one variable, but assertiveness/wussiness (not a scientific term, ha ha) is another variable. Not sure about the correlation...that's where the study would come into play, huh?
Laurie
So, as an assertive extrovert, I'm pretty much screwed.
as i lay awake thinking over this puzzle, i came to the realization that perhaps a false dichotomy has been set up here - in other words, introversion/extroversion is made up of more than just being assertive or not - so no, Erin, you're not screwed - you just put yourself into a tight little matrix that pretty much would screw anyone - however, i would think that an assertive extrovert (in this little matrix) would be considered pretty potent!!
Besides, we introverts often feel like we have to apologize, too. Maybe not so much for for what we say (although that, too), but for not wanting to attend group events or for wanting to leave early, stuff like that.
I know, I know. I've turned something clever and witty into a serious discussion. Tsk, tsk.
Laurie
Not screwed as much as you might think, Erin. She said assertive, not aggressive. An aggressive extrovert would be much worse.
And what Laurie said about clever and witty.
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